Get Them in Writing 0

by Jason Gracia

It's critical that you get them in writing. Not goals or ambitions. No, we're not talking about creating a clear target. Instead, we're talking about uncovering a clear obstacle.

Few people like to admit that they're afraid to do something. They also don't enjoy admitting that they'd rather not work toward improvement. The way out? The always-available excuse.

What's Your Excuse?
Whether it's a packed schedule or the fact of kids still in school, people will reach for anything that gets them out of the hot water of fear or sacrifice.

It's not that you're afraid to break free of your dead-end job and find something truly rewarding; it's simply that you don't have the time right now.

Obviously, with excuses covering up the truth, nothing ever changes. And even more clear is the fact that you need to break free of these destructive traps of illusion.

Where to Begin
Because these little nuggets of falsehood have enjoyed so much use in the past, it's difficult to call them out the moment they rise to the surface; they've become so ingrained that using an excuse is more of reflex than rational thought.

This problem is solved with a pen and paper.

By writing out, word for word, the excuses you've used in the past to avoid doing things that scare you or things that require sacrifice, you'll shine the light on your rationalizations.

You can even ask friends or family the typical ‘reasons' you've offered to explain your inaction.

When you've uncovered your patterns of explanation, you'll be ready the next moment they come to mind. Instead of talking you out of action, you'll know better. You'll know it's just your excuse reflex at work and finally break free of the trap of rationalization.